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I have done by best to reach out to folks that place wanted ads when I have the parts available. I make certain to tell them who I am to alleviate any fears of a possible scam.
Still, rarely, almost never, do I get a response.
I'm not sure what to attribute this to? Rudeness?
A simple, "thanks, I already found it" or something / anything seems to be the least a person could do.

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Most folks do not understand the 'double click' for editing their want title either. Newc

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Gone the way of cursive writing!

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And it is becoming more pervasive here the last year or two. A few seconds of time and no stamp and you can't get a thank you for the time and effort you provided. An internet user group benefits form joint experience and knowledge. There are some posters asking for help, don't reply to questions of clarification and never offer help to others to boot ...

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I've noticed some users hardly ever check their private messages.

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Yup, something is definitely wrong with the way many folks DON"T say "THANK YOU" for anything.
For instance: I wonder how many folks post a THANKS to Pete Hoovie for enlarging photos.

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It surely is a different world than 50 or 100 years ago. If you see pictures of a public gathering 75 years ago in the outdoors nearly every man has a cap or hat on. Never do you see a picture back then of men with a hat on indoors. I watch women open doors to a store as their husband follows them in. Many men accompany a woman on the sidewalk with the woman on the outside near the street. Occasionally I see a young fellow open the car door for his gal and I always compliment him. I expect that he will teach his sons to do likewise. I have also found that all women appreciate this type of respect.

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34fordy just hit a "home run."

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I let folks know when I am no longer looking for the part.


I will add that lately I have posted wanted ads for parts, and I have not had anyone contact me with the part for sale.


For example, I've been looking for an original or NOS gas cap with no dents or scratches. I have never had anyone respond to my ad. I find that strange. Maybe folks don't like me?

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Yes. Me too. But that begets the question "why post for wanted parts"?

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I don't know about other folks, but I sure don't like you.
Just kidding :)

Seth, authentic, as in "concourse correct" caps are rare. Seriously.
I saw your wanted ad some time ago and looked through my stash. Not a single one to the condition you desire.
When I was doing all of my restorations, NOS caps... I'd pounce on everyone I could find (not many).

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Oh my gosh, you have hit (sadly) the truth directly between the eyes.
Much of what you describe is the difference in a man and a male (boy). Men respect women. Males (boys) not so much.
Raining or otherwise, I open the door for my wife always and always have and always will. I always walk closet to traffic.
My wife and I are equal in every way. She is brilliant and physically very capable. Still, there is something in my personal code that tells me I must be there for her at all times.
Hey, when Revlon and others started selling makeup marketed directly at males (not men) it became even more obvious we as a society are spiraling out of control.

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Guys, thank you for humoring me. Perhaps I was out of line a bit to even bring this subject up but well, I still have hope that we can turn things around a little, add back a little civility and manners once common, back into our everyday lives.

On a bight note, one fellow that I had responded to (his parts wanted) did respond after seeing this post. To him, thank you.

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Kube I just checked my private messages to make sure I wasn’t one of “those” people!
My experience is usually new members wanting parts that don’t reply back. Most senior members on the site are excellent, and genuinely interested in assisting other members.

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Hey Kube,

I am seeing a major decline of manners in everyday life every day. My parents both taught me the many things that make a man a gentleman and they are a natural part of me. How about when I say thank you I get a reply of "no problem". Well, I sure didn't think there was a problem. Walking on the outside, opening doors, starting the car to get it warm and countless others. I think I am an 84 year old dinosaur. PHIL

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Hey Kube,

I am seeing an everyday lack of civility in many ways. My parents both taught me the good manners that make a man a gentleman and they are just a part of who I am. Walk next to the street, open doors, carry the heavy things, push in the chair and endless others. How about when saying thanks the reply is "no problem". I certainly didn't think there was a problem. I think maybe I am an 84 year old dinosaur. PHIL

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I didn't realize that about gas caps. I just figured they would be fairly common. I learn something every day. I need to figure out how to turn this hobby into a career.

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I responded to two want ads recently and both responded back that they had found what they needed. Both are regular members of the "Barn". Had an encounter the other day at the post office. Saw an older(older than me at 81) lady walking up to the door carrying a package. I held the door open for her and she said" Your mother taught you well". I told her "yes she did". It brought a smile to her face and mine too and brought back some fond memories of both my parents.

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:-) common courtesy.

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Actually it was my dad that "taught me well." Many times I have received compliments from younger women when they see me open our car doors (in and out) for my sweetheart. I believe that it signals to other people watching what a great gal SHE is! In fact, my sweetheart always thanks me too. I am the lucky one for sure.

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My wife is wheelchair bound. When we go out, we have found that most people jump to open doors for us, which makes a bright spot in everyone's day. Comparing the politeness of days gone by with the modern day, the biggest shift I see is road rage. Back in the day, hand and arm signals gave folks an outlet for how they feel, now half the time you don't even get the courtesy of a turn signal.

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Guess at 91 I must be old school too. Losing dad at 13 years old, I never had that training, it just seemed the natural and right thing to do by watching others and I'm still at it today ! Open doors, remove Hat if indoors etc. If I happen upon a woman no matter the age if she could use a hand, I'm there, just seems natural .

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Ha! I could advise you on just that. I did that very thing... had a lot of really great times restoring cars for others.

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When I sold my '38, i let it go with an original Ford script lockable gas cap, the one with the rivet. It's chrome was intact but showed the years, as you would expect. I got to thinking after the fact that the buyer was a relative know-nothing and likely would replace it with a shiny new Drake cap, chucking the old cap in the trash. I wake in the night with a shudder from those chilling dreams.

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[QUOTE=ford38v8; Back in the day, hand and arm signals gave folks an outlet for how they feel,

You are so right Alan! Most signals given these days are with just one finger!
Patience seems to be a dying virtue.

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I'm getting off topic here but..
In July of 2025 I was pulled over by a county deputy while driving my '37 standard V8, during daylight hours. The officer asked me if I was aware that I only had one brake light. I told him I was aware because the car was a "standard" model. He asked me to get out of the car so he could show me. When we walked to the back of the car he looked twice and said "I only see one tail light. I responded "yes, that's because it's a standard model". I then went into an explanation of what the differences were in a standard and a deluxe.
I also explained to him that I use my arm to signal for turns. His response "I saw you stick your arm out the window and I didn't know what that was".
The officer was very nice and he complemented me on the car.
He did have one issue. My year of manufacture, 1937 Illinois plates, came back invalid on his computer. I laughed and said I forgot to give you my extended antique Illinois plate. It was in the trunk with a valid registration.
The officer told me that I was doing everything correctly. I told him that I had other pre-war Fords and he would see me driving again sometime.
Overall my experience with that was entertaining. The officer was very nice. He was at first confused but I used the moment to teach him about early Fords. I think he enjoyed it.